Teenagers today are struggling with mental health issues much more dramatically compared to their parents at the same age. Gen Z has the poorest mental health of any generation, according to a Gallup report. Things that contribute to the higher rates of mental health concerns among today’s teens and young adults include school violence, the pandemic, increased screen time, and social and political issues.
As you can tell, mental health for teens is very important. It’s essential that parents talk to their teens about mental health. But, if you are a parent of a teenager, you’re probably familiar with this scenario: You try to engage with your teen about their mental health — only to get no response at all from them. So, you back off and say nothing else.
So, how can you start a conversation about mental health with your child? Here’s how you can empower and assist your teen.
Warning Signs of Mental Health Issues in Teens
Before talking with your teen, it’s important to be aware of when they might need outside help. Teens normally experience a roller coaster of emotions. How can you tell the difference between normal hormonal changes and potential mental health concerns? Here are some signs:
- Poor performance in school – If your teen has had significant changes in their grades or they have lost interest in school, it could be due to a mental health issue. Mood issues like depression can lead to a lack of motivation, which can result in a decline in academic interest and performance.
- Sleep problems – Have you noticed that your teen, normally an early riser, has been sleeping until 1:00 PM on the weekends? Sometimes, this is related to mental health. Likewise, if they are unable to sleep, it could be due to mental health, as well.
- Isolation or social withdrawal – A lack of interest in spending time with friends, frequent boredom, or a strong desire to be alone most of the time are all indicators of depression.
- Excessive anger or irritability – If your teen has experienced significant changes in mood or mood swings, it could be due to mental health problems.
- Risky behaviors – Teens who are experiencing depression or anxiety are more likely to engage in dangerous behaviors like binge drinking or having sex without any form of contraception.
If you see the above signs, talk to your teen. Also, bring it up with your teen’s primary care provider or a mental health professional — especially if these issues have been going on for more than two weeks.
5 Tips For Talking With Your Teen About Mental Health
Discussing mental health with your teen may be uncomfortable at first. Here’s how to navigate those conversations.
1. Talk Openly and Honestly
One of the reasons why teens insist that nothing is wrong when asked about their mental health is because they may feel embarrassed or ashamed. This has to do with stigma.
The stigma surrounding mental health has definitely decreased among Gen Z. For the most part, this generation is used to talking openly about mental health. However, the stigma has not necessarily decreased among parents of Gen Z. When it comes to talking about their own mental health, many parents change the subject or avoid it altogether.
Keeping mental health in the shadows doesn’t help your teen. Open communication among families is critical. If you are comfortable talking sincerely about mental health, your teen will follow suit.
2. Be The One To Start The Conversation
Don’t wait for your teen to come to you about their mental health. Be the one to start the conversation. Your teen may feel relieved when you bring up the subject. Sometimes teens are struggling but don’t know how to express it. By starting the conversation, you are giving them the opportunity to talk about how they are feeling.
3. Describe Why You Are Concerned
Let your teen know what you have noticed and describe why you are concerned. Here are some example statements:
- “It looks like you’ve been feeling down, what’s up?”
- “I’m concerned because you’re acting differently. Is everything okay?”
- “I’ve noticed that you’re sleeping a lot more than normal. Are you feeling like your usual self?”
4. Help Your Teen Identify Others They Can Talk To
While it’s important for children to talk to their parents about mental health concerns, they also need to know who they can turn to if you are not around. While your teen might be willing to talk to their friends, they may need professional support or help from another adult.
Encourage your teen to utilize the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline if they are experiencing mental health concerns or thoughts of harming themselves. This line is staffed by trained counselors. It is free, confidential, and available 24/7.
The Trevor Project is another great resource for teens thinking about harming themselves or experiencing a crisis. This free crisis line supports LBQTQ+ youth. Trained counselors offer immediate support 24/7 via chat, text, or phone.
5. Don’t Exercise Judgment
If you ask your teen about their mental health, you may hear things that make you uncomfortable. If your teen is having a hard time, be careful not to insinuate that the issues are their fault or infer that they are “crazy.” Avoid statements like this: “There are people in the world with bigger problems.”
It’s common for many parents to label their child as “lazy” if they can’t get out of bed to go to school or struggle with taking a shower. But, it’s important to not shame or blame your teen for these issues.
What If Your Teen Isn’t Ready To Talk?
If your teen isn’t yet ready to talk, just let them know that you are there for them. You can say something like “I’m here for you whenever you need to talk.” Also, remind them of other places they can go for help.
Final Thoughts
Because of the rising number of teens facing mental health issues today, it’s essential for parents to understand possible red flags and have important conversations about mental health.
So, what do you do if you think your child has a mental illness? If your teen is struggling with mental health issues, face the problem with them. Parents can do a lot to help. Work with your teen to help them find a way to manage their mental health.
